From Part 1: Essential Parenting Attitudes, chapter The Four Parts of to Discipline "As I see it, there are four distinct parts to the purpose and goal of discipline. 1. To correct immediate behavior 2. To teach a lesson 3. To give tools that build self-discipline and emotional control 4. To build the parent/child relationship"
In this chapter, she offers a short situation that includes biting, illustrating the four parts. i'll omit the names of the steps. "Situation: Your child is upset with a playmate and bites her on the arm. 1. Separate the children. Provide attention and care to the child who was bitten. 2. Get down to your child's level, put your hands on her shoulders, look her in the eye, and say, "Biting hurts. We don't bite. Offer Emmy a hug. That might make her feel better." 3. Offer your child a few hints on how she should handle her frustration next time. "If you want a toy, you can ask nicely for it, or you can come to Mommy for help." 4. Show your child that you are on her side even when she makes mistakes. Demonstrate that she can count on you to teach her how to handle strong emotions. "
From the section in part three on Biting (mostly the key points, not whole paragraphs) "Think about it ...they don't quite know how to control their feelings, and they don't have any concept of hurting another person... it most likely isn't an act of aggression... "What to Do o Watch and intercept ...you may be able to stop a bite before it occurs... o Teach [see conversation above] o Give your child lessons on how she should handle frustrations. ... o Avoid playful biting... o Give more attention to the injured child... o Handle the repeat offender... you can respond with more intensity. [At this point, time-out is OK.] o React even when you don't see it. ...talk with your child about what happened. Limit yourself to a few brief, specific comments... Reading children's books ... on the topic, role-playing, and demonstrating appropriate actions can all help your child learn how to respond to her own emotionsi n socially apporpriate ways. o Provide first aid.
What Not to Do o Don't respond emotionally [Anger followed by punishment is the instinct, and it's inneffective.] o Don't bite back... o Don't assume that your child is willfully misbehaving... o Don't yell at your child."
---- And on biting, from an article an old daycare teacher gave us - young toddlers especially can bite friends because they just need to bite. Serving bacon or other chewy foods at daycare breakfasts significantly reduced biting incidents in a study.
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From Part 1: Essential Parenting Attitudes, chapter The Four Parts of to Discipline
"As I see it, there are four distinct parts to the purpose and goal of discipline.
1. To correct immediate behavior
2. To teach a lesson
3. To give tools that build self-discipline and emotional control
4. To build the parent/child relationship"
In this chapter, she offers a short situation that includes biting, illustrating the four parts. i'll omit the names of the steps.
"Situation: Your child is upset with a playmate and bites her on the arm.
1. Separate the children. Provide attention and care to the child who was bitten.
2. Get down to your child's level, put your hands on her shoulders, look her in the eye, and say, "Biting hurts. We don't bite. Offer Emmy a hug. That might make her feel better."
3. Offer your child a few hints on how she should handle her frustration next time. "If you want a toy, you can ask nicely for it, or you can come to Mommy for help."
4. Show your child that you are on her side even when she makes mistakes. Demonstrate that she can count on you to teach her how to handle strong emotions. "
From the section in part three on Biting (mostly the key points, not whole paragraphs)
"Think about it
...they don't quite know how to control their feelings, and they don't have any concept of hurting another person... it most likely isn't an act of aggression...
"What to Do
o Watch and intercept ...you may be able to stop a bite before it occurs...
o Teach [see conversation above]
o Give your child lessons on how she should handle frustrations. ...
o Avoid playful biting...
o Give more attention to the injured child...
o Handle the repeat offender... you can respond with more intensity. [At this point, time-out is OK.]
o React even when you don't see it. ...talk with your child about what happened. Limit yourself to a few brief, specific comments... Reading children's books ... on the topic, role-playing, and demonstrating appropriate actions can all help your child learn how to respond to her own emotionsi n socially apporpriate ways.
o Provide first aid.
What Not to Do
o Don't respond emotionally [Anger followed by punishment is the instinct, and it's inneffective.]
o Don't bite back...
o Don't assume that your child is willfully misbehaving...
o Don't yell at your child."
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And on biting, from an article an old daycare teacher gave us - young toddlers especially can bite friends because they just need to bite. Serving bacon or other chewy foods at daycare breakfasts significantly reduced biting incidents in a study.
I hope this is more helpful, anyway!